Hundreds of thousands of years of human experience give you a wonderful treasure trove of resources to express your love.
One of the best things about a celebrant led wedding is the ability to mix and match all sorts of traditions, both ancient and modern, to express exactly what you want to say about your union. Millennia of human evolution has given us an incredibly rich toolbox full of different kinds of rituals that all capture something special about the experience of two lives coming together and connect with your own unique story.
A fact of the human experience is that we are ritual beings; we create all sorts of rituals in our lives. As far as we know, we are the only species that is sufficiently aware of ourselves to want to tell stories about ourselves and ritual is a key part of that storytelling giving us a physical and tangible way of showing what matters to us to the world of friends and family.
From the beautiful Jewish tradition of breaking a glass under foot that recognises that life contains pain and struggle as well as joy and can be particularly helpful if the couple have experienced bereavement or loss, through to the rainbow cords of a Hand-fasting or the beautiful ceremony of golden crowns from the Eastern Orthodox Christian tradition, a celebrant can gather together rituals that work for you.
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However, it’s really important that a ceremony tells a coherent story and isn’t just a hochpoch of pick ‘n mix ‘stuff’ that might be fun to do, but will leave those attending befuddled and confused. You need to be confident that your celebrant can handle ritual confidently and with a lightness of touch that comes from experience. The brilliant thing is that, once you’ve got a celebrant in whom you’re confident, then you’ll know that you can create a ceremony where attendees will probably remember the powerful ritual you use more that they remember any words spoken.
So if you think you’d like to dig into the mine of human experience to find rich and expressive ritual for your wedding, here are some top tips:
David Linaker is a former Anglican priest who, having moved outside of the formal faith environment, offers a powerful partnership in helping couples mark one of the most significant moments of life’s journey with, or without, religious content.Read David's profile here
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